Why and How a Life Coach Can Help You

If you want your life to improve over time, you can't stay the same person you are today. You also can't maintain a limiting self-concept and expect to be more than you are today. Said another way, you can never outperform your self-concept.

Another thing you must do is give up blaming others for what happens to you (if you are doing this now). You may be run over by a bus, or mistreated, or suffer injustice, but it is your response to these happenings that will determine the ultimate direction of your life.

One more thing that is certain is that very few individuals achieve the highest levels of fulfillment all by themselves. Nearly everyone who achieves fulfillment has someone who coached or mentored them, and generally that coach was not a close friend or family member. Why? Because friends and family members are not able to give you objective, unbiased feedback, and even if they do, you are likely to reject it because of who they are.

There is a given in life: no change takes place without feedback and if feedback is rejected, no change takes place.

This is one of the main functions of a life coach. They tell you like it is, even when it's painful (and all feedback that points out a flaw is painful--take it from me, I've had my share of it).

The coach can also challenge you to do your best. In the early days of his career, singer Andrea Bocelli could walk into the studio and do one take, and it would be nearly perfect. His manager would always suggest that he do another take. "Why, is it not good enough?" Bocelli would ask.

"It's great," his manager would tell him. "But you can do better."

And he would.

If you aspire to the "good life," to success, financial abundance, or great relationships, a life coach can be an invaluable help in getting there. But just be sure to choose one that is qualified. More on this in the next post. Ciao.